You beautifully captured the mindset of someone trying to hold it together while they're waiting at the hospital.  Buffy's laundry list of rooms and their purposes was made poignant by this line:   Only Glory doesn’t belong in her living room and living rooms aren’t places where you make death threats. There’s a time and a place, but the rules keep getting broken.   Buffy should be able to feel safe at home.  Her mom should be able to feel safe at home.  Glory's ruined that.

This made me laugh out loud:  “You planning on coming inside or is this payback loitering?”   Willow's last line was hysterical, too. 

Buffy going to Spike for help was beautifully written.  He was able to get a few words in about his feelings and she shut him down pretty effectively.  I don't think it's going to stop his pursuit, but saving her family and friends is what's important now, not her lovesick vampire.

Buffy is going to have to kill Xander.  Nice Buffy and Spike scene - very mean of Princess Buffy.

 I'm really enjoying your story.  It is definitely number 1 on my ff list right now.
Thank you and 2 updates in 1 day ... awesome.